Observing the Wonder First's

By Burke M.A.CCC-SLP

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As a parent, I’ve come to realize that the journey of raising a child is punctuated by a series of remarkable moments, each marking a significant milestone in their life. These moments, often a series of ‘firsts’, symbolize not only my child’s growth and development but also create heartwarming memories that I will forever remember.

 

The magic of my baby’s first smile was nothing short of enchanting. Seeing their face light up with happiness for the first time was a profound moment, filled with joy and contentment. This experience etched itself in my memory, reminding me of the simple yet profound joys of parenting.

One memory that stands out is the first time I took my daughter to the beach. As the Atlantic waves gently crashed on the shore, she suddenly started screaming and crying, “Daddy, daddy, my bathing suit, my bathing suit – it’s wet!” as tears streamed down her face. This unexpected reaction to a wet bathing suit was both amusing and memorable. Similarly, I remember the first time I offered her a spoon of chocolate ice cream. Watching her eyes light up, I thought, “This is going to be a lifelong love.”

Then there was the milestone of the first word. I remember carrying my son out to the car when he was about ten months old. As I strolled to the door, he looked down at my watch and said “wah” – an approximation, but a clear attempt at a first word. I immediately called my wife to come outside. We couldn’t elicit a second utterance at that moment, but it will forever be remembered as my eldest’s first word. The start of speech signified a new phase in his life, where he began to engage more directly with the world around him.

Sometimes, a first word can be completely unexpected. I recall a two-year-old I was seeing at a school for the blind in northern New Jersey. She didn’t vocalize much, and speech seemed a little way off. Yet, one day, while listening to the Barney song, she said “Barney” clear as a bell. I was surprised, perhaps even a little shocked, that this was her first word, considering the more traditional first words like “Ma” or “Da.” And yes, she was even able to repeat it on subsequent trials. Without speech, it’s challenging to know all the thoughts going on in a little one’s mind, but my time in therapy has shown me just how much they are capable of understanding and feeling.

My life as a parent has been replete with ‘firsts’ that are equally significant and delightful. Whether it’s the first time my child rolled over, crawled, walked, rode a bike, or their first day at school, each milestone has been a testament to their growth and learning. These moments are not just developmental markers; they are treasured memories reflecting the rapid and remarkable changes in my child’s life.

The wonder of firsts extends beyond childhood, encompassing various life stages and experiences. From personal achievements like getting married or buying a first home to adventurous experiences like traveling to a new country, life has been a series of firsts that bring excitement, growth, and joy.

As a parent, I revel in many ‘firsts’ that my children experience:

  • The first laugh
  • The first solid food
  • The first bath
  • The first visit to the park
  • The first meeting with grandparents
  • The first day of school
  • The first pet
  • The first vacation
  • The first graduation

 

Each of these moments is unique and special, contributing to the beautiful tapestry of memories that my children and I will treasure for a lifetime.

Reflecting on these personal experiences, such as the memorable afternoon on the back porch when my nine-month-old uttered their first word, or the joyous occasion of my six-month-old tasting chocolate ice cream for the first time, adds a personal touch to this universal journey of parenting. These anecdotes highlight the spontaneous and delightful nature of childhood firsts.

Each ‘first’ in my child’s life is a new beginning and an opportunity to create lasting memories. These moments are not just milestones; they are celebrations of growth, discovery, and the deep bond between parents and their children. As I navigate through these experiences, it’s important for me to savor each moment and appreciate the wonder of life’s journey.

As a speech therapist, I’ve had the unique privilege of not only witnessing but also facilitating countless firsts in the lives of many children. These moments, filled with discovery and progress, have been as rewarding and heartwarming as those I’ve experienced as a parent.

One of the most exhilarating aspects of my work is seeing a child articulate a sound correctly for the first time. The joy on a child’s face when they successfully pronounce the /f/ or /ch/ sound is precious. It’s a breakthrough moment, both for them and for me. These small victories are huge leaps in their communication journey.

Engaging a child in book reading is another cherished first. Waching their eyes as they turn each page, gradually getting absorbed in the story, is a testament to the power of language and storytelling. Similarly, when a child uses sign language to communicate a desire, like signing “more” for the first time, it’s a significant step towards self-expression.

Hearing a child make an animal sound or sing a part of “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” brings an element of fun and creativity into therapy sessions. These are not just milestones; they’re moments of social connection.

In my journey as both a parent and a therapist, I’ve learned to treasure every first, no matter how small it may seem. Each first is a building block in the foundation of a child’s growth. So savior these moments and relish the journey, because everything starts with a first. Whether it’s the first word, the first step, or the first time a child shares their thoughts and feelings, each first is a celebration of progress and potential.

In the end, it’s these moments, these firsts, that make both parenting and therapy incredibly fulfilling. They remind us of the wonder of growth and of a child’s development.